When my best friend told me that she was cutting negative people out of her life & then she stopped talking to me, I realized that I was the “negative” that she was talking about. I never realized I was negative – I knew I complained a lot, but we both bounced our complaints off of each other, so I thought that was just our thing.
Realizing that I was a negative person really put things into perspective for me. I’ve decided to make a lifestyle change and to be more positive. I want to share my journey with you along the way.
“Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from negativity.”
Here’s my game-plan :
1. To implement 15 tips for positivity (listed below) –
2. Take my life back
3. Control my negative self talk & focus on self-love
So let’s get started.
15 Tips for Positivity –
1. Cut toxic people out of your life.
This is a biggy. & I actually got this statement word for word from one of my dearest friends. I cried to her every day for the longest time about how unhappy and miserable I was. But you know what…? I’m the only one to blame for my unhappiness.
Toxic people give you a negative mind. & a negative mind will never give you a positive life.
I can say from experience, that it hurts being on the other side of this. My best friend cut me out of her life, and even though I can’t say for sure that it’s because I’m a negative person, it’s a good place to start. Becoming more positive is a great lifestyle change either way.
2. Write down 3 things good things that have happened to you each day.
I’ll start now. I’m grateful for my husband, my daughter, and all the love that I’m surrounded by.
I hold myself accountable by telling my friend 3 good things that happen each day and one new thing I am grateful for. I do this every single day.
Sometimes I really have to think about good things that happened that day, but it’s a good practice.
Once you start doing it, you will consciously think about good things that are happening throughout the day!
3. Make a conscious effort to cut down on social media.
I’ve kind of already done this since I started my blog. I only use social media for that and I’ve cut down on my mindless scrolling through Facebook. I will continue implementing this one though!
I started this last night before bed, and I felt so calm and relaxed. I think I even slept better.
In fact, research shows that meditation increases positive emotions, increases life satisfaction, boosts your immune function, improves memory and attention, and decreases loneliness.
Here’s a helpful meditation video that I use for positivity.
5. Be confident that you can overcome challenges
Know that “You. Got. This!”
6. Send out thank you notes on a regular basis.
Or texts or emails. I try to thank one person a week for something that has helped or inspired me.
For example, tell your family and friends how much you appreciate what they’ve done for you.
7. Exercise regularly to feel better physically.
I need to work on this one so much. I’m not sure why exercise is so hard for me, but I need to start walking or doing light workouts a few times a week.
8. Keep a journal of one big accomplishment each day.
It doesn’t have to be a life changing accomplishment either. Something that’s big to someone else might seem small to you, & vice versa.
For example, a big accomplishment that you could record might be “Kept the kids alive” or “Folded a load of laundry”
Just because it isn’t life changing, doesn’t mean it isn’t important.
9. Find the silver linings in bad situations you face.
This is the one I need to work on the most. I’m always down in the dumps after something bad happens, but I need to realize that everything happens for a reason – if I was late to work or if I can’t go do something because of the weather, I need to look at the positive side of it. Maybe there was a reason I wasn’t supposed to be in that place at that time.
10. Call someone who makes you feel good every week.
I actually do this one every day. I live 1,800 miles away from home so I call my mom every morning to talk to her. & it makes me feel better. My day is actually worse off if I don’t talk to her every morning.
11. Practice self-care.
Here’s another that I need to work on. Having a baby is hard and I feel like I don’t have enough time in the day. But I need to make time, because I need to be healthy to keep my family healthy.
12. Help someone else feel good by paying them a compliment.
Tell a stranger that you love her hair or a friend that they’re a GREAT mom. They will appreciate it more than you know.
13. Let go of guilt.
Forgive and move on. What happened in the past can’t be changed. If you feel the need, apologize for it and move forward. Don’t hold yourself back because of guilt.
14. Spend time outside.
Something about fresh air really clears my mind. No matter the weather, try to aim to spend at least 5 minutes a day outside.
& last but most certainly not least …
15. Recognize one thing you love about yourself.
Don’t shrug this off – this is important. What do you love about yourself.
Take My Life Back –
I’m actually working on an ENTIRE post about this. It focuses on building yourself up, making the most of your time and money, and improving the way you see yourself. It’s a must read if you’re ready to take your life back and become more positive.
I will be publishing it next week and I will link back to this post as soon as it is finished!
Control negative self talk & focus on self-love
I could go on and on about this but I just want to touch on a few key points.
Challenge your negative self talk
Ask yourself some questions. Are the negative things you say really what you think? Why do you think that way? Is it actually true? More than likely, it isn’t the truth & you are your own worst enemy.
You deserve better, no matter what your mind tells you.
You 👏 deserve 👏 better! 👏
Here are some key things I ask myself from time to time to help me shut down those negative thoughts:
What would I say to someone else saying these things about themselves?
Would I accept being spoken to this way by someone else?
Is this really the truth?
How can I learn from this?
Ask yourself these questions and give them some hard, truthful thought.
Once you’ve done this, you will feel a little differently about the things you say to yourself.
Replace those negative thoughts
I know, easier said than done, but you can do it.
Now that you’ve had a good think about your negative thoughts and you’ve questioned them, replace them with positive thoughts.
For example :
“She’s so pretty. I will never be as pretty as her.”
Turn it into a positive thought –
“I’m going to work harder in my workout/skin care regimen so I can improve my self image!” – After all, self love is the best love!
“I love her outfit! I should do some retail therapy to make build my confidence and self esteem!”
Embrace the love around you and LOVE YOURSELF. Find joy in the present moment and use these tips to surround yourself with more positivity.
If you found this post helpful, share it with a friend that might need it.
What practices do you use to be more positive? Let me know in the comments below!
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